Virginity is something most single women in European dominated countries desire to have back. Why? Society presents us with many rules, some we understand and agree with and some we don’t. Nonetheless, rules just like life evolves and changes over time. One thing that never changes is the precious gift of love. For some of us waiting for that special someone is mandatory based on culture and religion and for others it is a choice. In contradiction, many women’s first times have been tainted by forceful actions of men and peer pressure of society. However, sexual fasting can reverse psychological and physical effects that may have occurred during traumatic sexual experiences.
The first time is a special moment in a woman’s life. Scientifically speaking, when a woman has sex she releases chemicals throughout the body that causes deep emotional attachment and love for her partner. The first experience tends to be the most memorable and can have a strong impact on how we value ourselves and men. Thereon after, every sexual experience connects us with our partners in a manner that some people have a hard time explaining. We get attached and sometimes, we shouldn’t be. There is science behind the attachment. Estrogen, Serotonin, Dopamine, Oxytocin, Norepinephrine, and Vasopressin are all natural hormones produced by the body that connects us to the person we lay with. Estrogen is involved in lust and is attracted to testosterone like a magnet. Serotonin, Dopamine, and Norepinephrine sends the mind and body into a euphoric state that can make us feel high and become fond of our partner. Oxytocin and Vasopressin creates that key and a lock feeling that attaches us to one another. Spiritually, in many religious faiths it is the belief that we tie souls with our partner.
Throughout history, sex has been used to consummate marriages because of the deep emotional connection and attachment. This creates a special bond between husband and wife that isn’t supposed to be shared with other human beings. Without consummations, marriages aren’t very valid in many religious cultures. Without sexual bonds, there is a level of connection and attachment missing from a relationship that is important for the holy union. Sex is what separates romantic love from other types of love that humans share with each other and animals.
So many women today regret losing it too soon or to the person they chose. Sometimes we feel fond of and lust for people that are not right for us. Many people confuse admiration for love while others choose partners based on material things. In many cases people are attracted to one another but lack passion for each other. Some people believe in soul mates but lack the patience and discipline it takes to find the key to their lock. Passionate, dependable, sacrificing, responsible, protective, mentally and physically strong, understanding, respectful, loyal, grateful, appreciative, dedicated, physically attractive, caring, considerate, detailed oriented, aware, and being naturally attuned with you are things one should consider when choosing a mate. Many of us make sacrifices and settle because of desperation. All humans are desperate for love, attention, and belonging. However, that desperation can cause people to rush into situationships that are unfulfilling. We ignore the signs and blockout the warning that lets us know that certain people aren’t the perfect match. It is important that we learn to love ourselves and find fulfillment in life without our mates.
Many women are secretly hurting inside. They are aware of the effects that sexual experiences had on them but move through life as if it doesn’t matter. While a person can experience regret from making any sacrifice for a person, without the exchanging of the gift, moving on and learning from mistakes seems to be a lot easier. Sex clouds our judgment! Some women claim to emotionally detach but for some reason, having a strictly sexual relationship seems to never workout. Some women never experience pleasure from sex because they have never had a partner that genuinely cares for their needs. Instead, their partners use them for their own pleasure. However, some are blessed enough to find that special someone and still share that special moment. A life of special moments is ideal.
Having multiple partners can cloud these moments and make them feel less special. The woman’s vagina can take on different shapes and behaviors based upon whom intercourse is with. In addition, the vagina is very sensitive to foreign bacteria and different people have different diets, lifestyles, and carry different germs and bacteria that can transfer during activity even with the use of protection. Women who are sexually active are more likely to experience bacteria infections and have vaginal odor if their partner is not in-tuned with them. The vagina can take on the shape of your partner, creating a perfect home for them. However, if you have more than one partner, the body doesn’t know what shape to take, causing it to stay in an open, more relaxed state for a prolonged period of time. In addition, one can build a tolerance for those feel good hormones that make sex less pleasurable and intense.nSo, how do we increase pleasure and intensify the moment? We wait!
Sexual fasting is great, not just for religious purposes but for our bodies, minds and spirits. Abstinence/celibacy is basically the same thing. It’s refraining from participating in sexual activity. This period of fasting is great to help cleanse and reset. In Christianity, it is believed that a person can become a born again virgin through fasting and acceptance of God. For spiritual individuals, it is believed that meditation can help one lose desire to be with previous partners. However, some people have had great sex with people who were not right for them and have a difficult time forgetting the experience.
The brain can eliminate our memories. In cases where people have experienced traumatic events in their life, their brains cushioned the blow by blocking events from the memory library. If you would like to eliminate memories of past sexual experiences, there are options. Prayer is strongly suggested for those who believe in God. For others, speaking to a psychologist or trying hypnosis could be effective. Whatever method chosen, refraining from sexual activity is a must!
Fasting will intensify future sexual experiences by allowing the vagina time to physically reset and by lowering one’s pleasure tolerance. Spiritually fasting can help one to detach from a partner without picking up any new attachments that will confuse the mind and body. Also it is a good period to focus on self and analyze relationships with clouds.
Citations
Cera, N., Vargas-Cáceres, S., Oliveira, C., Monteiro, J., Branco, D., Pignatelli, D., & Rebelo, S. (2021). How Relevant is the Systemic Oxytocin Concentration for Human Sexual Behavior? A Systematic Review. Sexual medicine, 9(4), 100370. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.esxm.2021.100370
Wu, K. (2020, June 19). Love, actually: The science behind lust, attraction, and companionship. Science in the News. https://sitn.hms.harvard.edu/flash/2017/love-actually-science-behind-lust-attraction-companionship/
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