We all know someone who is full of excuses. They have a reason for everything and it never seems to be their fault! How frustrating is it when you ask for an honest explanation but instead are met with yet another “it’s not my fault”? If you’re like me it can be pretty nerve wrecking dealing with someone who won’t ever take accountability for their actions. It’s like yelling at a wall; only the wall absorbs more! I got to thinking the other day about accountability and relationships. Often we are quick to point out the flaws of our significant others. Forgetting that in relationships it takes two to tango. Arguments, debates, disagreements all require two parties to exist. Many women find themselves repeating unhealthy relationship patterns or dating the wrong guy over and over again. The answer to this dilemma is simple. Every encounter/experience in your life is ultimately a lesson. In order to learn from the situations of our past we must be able to take an unbiased objective view of the situation. This can be extremely difficult to do for most because it requires you to not focus on the wrong doings of the other party but to take accountability for your own actions. Meaning, yes he cheated; but were there warning signs you ignored? Did you want the same things? Did you have any mutual goals or values? Do you honestly even know what role you want a man to play in your life? These are the questions most women forget to ask ourselves. For example: basketball coaches don’t just work on the court. Many watch hours of footage of their team playing on their free time. Why you ask? On camera a coach can observe every player and every play of a game. It tells the coach what the team’s strong suits are and their weaknesses. This enables the coach to strategize and work on the weak points of the team to perfect their game, all from an objective perception. In short if you want different, you have to do different! The first step of establishing healthy relationships is learning to take accountability for your own actions. You can’t control another person’s thoughts, actions, or emotions but you are the master of
your own. Take back your power, learn and appreciate the lessons in your life! Take accountability for your life!
